Confidence

Confidence is something we all love to have. Confidence is something that makes us feel good.  However much we get into anxiety and fear, we never like it. All of us would like to live our life confidently.  Confidence is a great treasure that we all seek to find. We know that when confidence is flowing through us then everything fits into place.

You could say that confidence is the Holy Grail that we all seek. We know that confidence surrounds us with a certain kind of invulnerable energy. We know that we can be like a mountain when storms are raging around us. Confidence is is the one thing they can help us to pass through the trials and challenges of this life. Confidence is what enables us to carry on, to go forward, to make a difference to ourselves and to those around us.

So, here we are, with something that we all want, something very valuable, something that could make a really big difference to us. Yet, the truth is that there are many things we can acquire far more easily than confidence. You can be beautiful, clever or very rich, and, still have no confidence.

Why is it that confidence is such a scarce commodity? Why is it that so many people find it difficult to live a confident life? I can only write here about what I have learned in my life and about what I am trying to do to enable me to live a more confident life. 

The way I see it is that many of us have come to believe that we are separate. Underneath everything we see ourselves locked in a bubble floating through space and time. We are looking out through the bubble at what is around us, out there.  We try to contact and communicate with what is out there but we find it difficult. 

We don't seem to get the response is that we want. We get ignored, we are not taken seriously. We can float through a day without any real connection. The more we feel this way then the more fearful and anxious we become. It is very difficult to manage in a universe of separation.

The way I have come to grips with this fear and anxiety is to understand that the belief in the separation is an illusion. It is simply not true. The reality is that I live in a universe that is interconnected,  everything is part of everything. There is absolutely no separation. Separation is absolutely impossible. We are all inter-dependent and absolutely everything is related in one way or another.

I have built up over the years many habits and thought patterns which come from my belief in separation. All those thought patterns vibrate with some element of fear and anxiety.  

So, also, in my life I have had many experiences of feeling connected: with my friends, my family, with nature, with music and many other things. I also know that when I have had that experience of connectedness there has been no fear and no anxiety. Confidence in myself and in the universe has flowed freely and beautifully. My heart has been filled with peace and happiness.

So in simple terms I now know that the more I become conscious and aware of my interconnectedness then the more confident I become. So, how do we find the great treasure of confidence. It is very simple: connect, merge, bond and become one with your life and with everything you experience.

Practice bonding and loving. Do it with the plant in your kitchen. Do it with the air you breath. Do it with the sun in the morning. See what a difference it makes to your heart and your life.